As a kid, I always had all sort of fantasies, about my first kiss, date, dream job, car, you name anything a little girl can dream of. One of my fantasy sequences included how I will grow up lovingly with my parents and brothers, you know, like in a Brady Bunch movie; turns out that only exist in my world. While in Secondary School I couldn't wait to get to the Univeristy so I could be far away from home, same with NYSC and getting a job.
What I couldn't stand was the arguing and control especially from my elder siblings. It was like my every move was chaperoned; the evil thought I always had was "I would still be bad and you wouldn't know a damn thing" (shhh don't tell anyone). My point, exactly? Being the centre of control developed my strategy skills from a very young age.
Sitting down tonight thinking of how I am going to get my reports done before I wake up for work, my younger sibling was arguing with my mother about wedding preparations for my elder sibling. Somehow, I found myself in the middle of this and took me back to those days where I longed to be far away from them, surprisingly after that we had a good laugh about another topic and just like that we were good. I thought to myself at that moment, if I had the opportunity to move away or not contact my family anymore, I would have missed out on a lot of things and not learnt that the keyS to overcoming difficult situations were patience, determination and prayers(if you are a spiritual junkie like me).
My family is all I have, even if they go against you dating someone, or they don't approve your lifestyle or criticise your choice of PJs; they will always have your back. So take it from this average Nigerian lady, take the time you have now to spend with your family create a bond you know they can't find anywhere else, it is actually worth the shot, let's face it your family are the only people that can bull shit you and change their minds the very next second.
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